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podcast· 27:33You Are Further Along Than You Think & Life Update
What if you’re not behind at all, but just overcomplicating what already works? This episode reframes change, sobriety, and wellness by cutting through noise and returning to a simpler truth: you already have access to what you need. You’ll hear how devotion, not more information or effort, becomes the foundation for sustainable change—and why inaction, listening, and internal connection often move you forward faster than constant doing. The episode also clarifies how real transformation happens across stages, not through sudden breakthroughs, and why you may be further along than you think. Walk away with a clearer understanding of how to reduce overwhelm, trust your internal guidance, and approach behavior change in a way that is sustainable, grounded, and aligned with long-term well-being. Grab the free mini training & Work with me 1:1 https://marywagstaffcoach.com/
- podcast· 16:48
Is God Calling You To Sobriety?
Sobriety is your birthright. God didn't create you to alter yourself. The only alteration required is remembering who you are, both holy human and divine. It's the right of passage most Women never received, and in fact, alcohol has limited the privilege in our lives of being able to know God deeply. The reasons Women drink are the same reasons we stay separate from God: fear of receiving and the need to always prove our worth. Empowered Feminine Sobriety Is the Next Phase Of Your Evolution: Get the Permission Protocol Free Mini Training: https://marywagstaffcoach.com/minicourse #God #sobriety #love #feminineenergy
- podcast· 14:28
Calm The Urge To Drink-Soft Whisper Reiki Meditation For Self Compassion
A gentle companion to support you in releasing, finding relief, and coming home to yourself. Please like, subscribe, and share! Thank you. For more info about my work and services: https://marywagstaffcoach.com
- podcast· 19:57
The Missing Piece Of Self Compassion That Will Change Your Sober Journey
In today’s episode of Wild Sobriety , I’m talking about what I believe is the most overlooked—and most crucial—piece of sustainable sobriety and feminine healing: radical self-compassion . After years in the self-development and coaching world, I’ve noticed something that quietly keeps women stuck: the belief that healing means trying harder, being better, or fixing yourself alone. In this episode, I share why that approach actually deepens shame, fuels over-functioning, and keeps alcohol—or other coping patterns—alive beneath the surface. We explore why sobriety isn’t about more discipline or self-control, but about learning how to meet your suffering without turning on yourself. This conversation goes deep into feminine nervous system healing, cyclical wisdom, and the moment everything changes when you stop trying to override your humanity. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Why self-improvement can secretly become self-punishment The missing link between sobriety, feminine energy,
- podcast· 23:44
Your “Priorities” Are Driving You to Drink - Try This!
The start of a new year often comes with reflection, intention-setting, and pressure to get everything “right.” For many women, that pressure quietly shows up as overwhelm — and eventually as the urge to drink, numb, or escape. In this video, I explore how the way we approach priorities, especially at the beginning of a new year, can actually fuel stress drinking rather than support real change. This isn’t a conversation about resolutions, discipline, or fixing yourself. It’s about clarity. When everything in your life becomes a priority — your health, your family, your work, your spirituality, your relationships — your nervous system never gets to rest. I share why choosing one true priority for this season can create calm, alignment, and a more sustainable path into sobriety and emotional freedom. We close with a short, grounding meditation designed to help you slow down, soften your body, and reconnect with what you truly desire for this year. This practice is an invitation into pea
podcast· 19:52What's Missing From Your Dry January
✨ Beyond Dry January is now open. A private 6-week experience where we anchor your sobriety into devotion, embodiment, and deep self-trust. More Info & Register Here: https://marywagstaffcoach.com/invest/p/beyonddryjan On today’s episode, I’m talking about the one thing that’s usually missing from Dry January—and why that’s exactly why so many alcohol breaks don’t last. If you’re participating in Dry January (or are already sober), congratulations. But if you’ve ever noticed that you just replace alcohol with mocktails, workouts, scrolling, or another “healthy” distraction—and still feel restless, disconnected, or off—this episode is for you. What most people call “willpower” is actually a longing to go inward. In this conversation, I share why a fast without devotion is just another project to manage, and how true change happens when you stop checking out and start tuning in. I talk about prayer—not as religion—but as presence. As listening. As learning to ask: What is the most loving
podcast· 44:49From Hot Mess To Radical Forgiveness With Essence Turner
In this episode I sit down with Essence Turner, Self Love Coach, to talk about self-worth, healing, and finding your true purpose. We dive into her personal journey from the underground of exotic dancing, drinking and instability to radical forgiveness, healing and serving others. Essences shares a relatable story of finding her way into her feminine expression, practical tips for self-love, and how to break through limiting beliefs. If you’re ready to feel empowered and inspired, you won’t want to miss this conversation! Connect with Essence : The Self-Healing School is a free blog space. https://www.theselfhealingschool.com Inside are two gifts: The Meet Your Goddess Guide quiz, which helps women connect with the divine feminine energy leading them right now: https://www.theselfhealingschool.com/p/start-here-goddess-quiz And the Lightworker Gifts for Women on a Spiritual or Purpose-Led Path, a free resource library to support healing, clarity, and becoming: https://www.theselfhealing
podcast· 30:44The Work Is Always Working : Live Coaching! Celebrating your wins, evolutionary sobriety
What if nothing is actually going wrong? In this episode, I’m unpacking a truth that has completely changed how I move through sobriety, business, money stress, emotions, and even embarrassment: the work is always working — either for you or on you . We talk about getting out of your head, breaking the mental loops, and learning how to trust the process even when it doesn’t feel good yet. I share how sobriety taught me clear seeing — not just the absence of alcohol, but the ability to be with emotions instead of escaping them. Anxiety, embarrassment, boredom, fear, money stress… all of it. We also dive into: Why alcohol (and other substances) create synthetic joy — and how feminine sobriety gives you the real thing Letting go of control, approval-seeking, and codependent patterns The power of saying “so what?” to emotions instead of making them a problem How embarrassment, discomfort, and emotional waves are actually building confidence and self-trust Moving from hustling and hunting t
podcast· 34:29Client Spotlight: 1,000 Days Alcohol Free With Nicole
Hey friends, today’s episode is extra special—I’m sitting down with Nicole, a former client and now a true inspiration, as she celebrates an incredible milestone: 1,000 days alcohol-free! We get real about the ups and downs of her sobriety journey, the grit it took to keep going, and how life has changed in ways she never expected. Nicole opens up about the challenges, the small (and big) wins, and what it really means to make alcohol irrelevant in your life. I f you’ve ever struggled with drinking, felt overwhelmed by life’s demands, or wondered if lasting change is possible, this conversation is for you. I’m so grateful Nicole was willing to share her story so honestly—I know you’ll walk away feeling encouraged and less alone. Let’s dive in! Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol. The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing,
podcast· 23:40From Darkness to Light: How the Solstice Inspires Feminine Healing and True Sober Living
Sobriety and feminine living meet the magic of the winter solstice in this episode. I’m diving into what the solstice really means for those of us longing to live through the lens of love, and how this dark, quiet time of year in the northern hemisphere is actually the perfect invitation to slow down, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves. I’ll share how I use the solstice as a portal for deep inner exploration—tapping into the cycles of nature, the phases of the moon, and the wisdom of my own body. We’ll talk about why I stopped using alcohol as a shortcut to relaxation and creativity, and how embracing my feminine rhythms has brought more freedom and clarity than any drink ever could. If you’re curious about living in sync with the seasons, finding your own rituals for rest and renewal, or just want to feel a little less alone as the days get shorter, this episode is for you. Let’s honor the solstice together and see what’s waiting to be birthed in the dark. Imagine having weekly bre
podcast· 16:00Blindspot #5: Quitting Drinking Means Something's Wrong (5-Part Series)🌹
We unpack the fifth blind spot that keeps women stuck with alcohol: the belief that seeking support means something is wrong, rather than a powerful up level. We show how to replace isolation and shame with evaluation, evidence, and celebration so alcohol becomes irrelevant. • reframing sobriety • moving from isolation • replacing alcohol-as-reward • strategy's that work to track your progress • sharing from neutrality to dissolve stigma and build connection • future-focused identity work to reclaim lost parts • practical rituals for emotional regulation and calm • community, support, and sustainable next steps Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free from your wild feminine. As a thank you for being such an important part of this podcast, I want to gift you my brand new free mini course, The Permission Protocol Everything you need is right here in the description Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol. The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an
podcast· 20:32Blindspot #4: Why You Should Stop Reading Quit Lit (5-Part Series)🌹
I used to think if I just read one more book or listened to one more podcast, I’d finally “get it.” But all that information kept me busy instead of free. In this episode, I talk about the hidden blind spot of overconsumption—why filling your brain with recovery content isn’t the same as changing your relationship with alcohol. I share how twenty years of drinking alongside a wellness practice taught me that awareness isn’t enough. Insight doesn’t rewire your brain—action does. I walk you through how beliefs create emotions, how rituals keep habits alive, and how to witness cravings in real time so the old story starts to lose its shine. When we stop outsourcing our healing to the next expert or episode and start practicing curiosity in our own bodies, real freedom begins. ✨ Takeaways: Why “passive action” feels productive but keeps you looping How to plan ahead and act from compassion, not pressure What to do when the drinker identity starts to loosen Why support accelerates growth by
podcast· 20:42Performance Mode
If you’ve been trying to quit drinking or step more fully into sobriety, this episode will change how you see your journey. I’m breaking down the three phases every woman goes through on the path to alcohol freedom: performance, resilience, and true transformation. Whether you’re sober-curious, trying to stop drinking, or rebuilding after a relapse, this conversation will help you understand exactly where you are and what you need next. In this episode, I talk about the performance phase —where you’re reading the books, listening to the podcasts, getting that dopamine rush from new insights, but not actually seeing the change stick. Then I dive into the resilience phase , the part no one celebrates: the trying, slipping, getting back up, becoming almost numb to disappointment but still believing something better is possible. Finally, I break down what real transformation actually looks like: embodied change, intentional choice, and the moment where quitting alcohol becomes less about w
podcast· 18:21Blind Spot #3 Stop Fighting Cravings - Do This Instead (5 Part Series)
You can quit drinking and still feel like you’re battling yourself all day. In this episode, I talk about the blind spot most women miss — the power of self-talk — and how the words we use can either fuel cravings or dissolve them in seconds. I share how I learned to stop fighting my mind and start speaking to myself with compassion instead. When stress stacks up, judgment adds pressure until the body wants relief. But the antidote isn’t more control — it’s safety. I walk through how to use calming thoughts and small, honest choices to rebuild self-trust and make peace with the part of you that just wants comfort. ✨ Takeaways: • How self-talk fuels or frees your cravings • Simple reframes that calm your nervous system fast • Why compassion is more effective than control • The truth about rebuilding self-trust, one choice at a time • What happens when you stop forcing change and let growth unfold Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free. Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and
podcast· 15:26Failure Tolerance
In this episode, I get real about what failure tolerance looks like for women who keep trying to quit drinking or make big changes in their lives. I share how repeated attempts—even when they feel disappointing—are actually proof of your resilience and belief that something bigger is possible. You’ll hear why getting numb to failure is normal, how to recognize the lessons hidden in your attempts, and why resilience alone isn’t enough—transformation requires intentional action. By the end, you’ll walk away with a fresh perspective on your past attempts and a clear path toward the change you really want. Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol. The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway. 👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only th
podcast· 14:13Blind Spot #2 Quitting Is Making It Harder To Not Drink (5 Part Series)
The hardest part isn’t pouring the last drink — it’s learning how to live well without needing one. In this episode, I share why “just quit” often fails and how a commitment-first approach makes sobriety simpler, softer, and actually sustainable. Instead of fighting cravings, I walk you through how to uncover what alcohol has really been doing for you — comfort, transition, connection — and how to meet those needs in ways that honor your values and your body. This is where the feminine path to freedom begins: rooted in embodiment, curiosity, and compassion rather than self-judgment. We also talk about the difference between attachment and desire, how your stories around alcohol amplify craving, and how to build evidence of your strength with small daily actions. This isn’t about perfection; it’s about devotion — to the woman you’re becoming. ✨ Takeaways: Why “just quit” creates resistance instead of relief How to uncover the real need underneath each craving Simple rituals that help yo
podcast· 19:27BONUS You Don’t Need To Be An Alcoholic To Quit Drinking
This bonus episode is a truth-telling moment — the conversation I wish someone had given me during the 20 years I wanted to quit drinking but didn’t know where to turn. If you’ve been stuck between two awful options — white-knuckle sobriety forever or resigning yourself to drinking because nothing else feels right — this is your sign that a third option exists. I share the real mindset shifts I learned outside of AA, how I finally made alcohol irrelevant, and why most women stay stuck bargaining for years. We talk about the gap you avoid, the mental noise you've normalized, and why “just not drinking” never creates the freedom you want. This is the foundation of the Permission Protocol — the feminine, embodied path to shifting your relationship with alcohol on your own terms. In this episode, I walk you through: • the real reason quitting feels impossible (hint: you’re only trying to not drink ) • the third option between AA and white-knuckling • how alcohol becomes the center of chang
podcast· 15:04The Real Problem Isn't Your Drinking (It's This)
What if quitting drinking isn’t actually the real problem? In this episode of Wild Sobriety , I share how I stopped making alcohol the center of my life — and started focusing on what actually mattered: learning to handle real life without needing to escape it. I talk about how changing my relationship with alcohol wasn’t about giving something up, but about raising the quality of my problems — from “how do I stop drinking?” to “how do I create a life that doesn’t need alcohol at all?” It’s not about perfection. It’s about presence, power, and emotional maturity — the kind that makes you proud of who you’re becoming. ✨ Takeaways: • The real reason trying to “quit drinking” keeps you stuck • What I focus on now instead of “not drinking” • How I learned to see alcohol as a symptom, not the source • The truth about emotional avoidance and self-abandonment • The simple question I ask myself that always brings me back to peace Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free with your wild
podcast· 25:09The Real Cost Of Sobriety Nobody Talks About (and Why It’s Easier Than You Think)
If you’re waiting for sobriety to be easy, you’ll be waiting forever. I say that not to discourage you — but because the moment you stop chasing the quick fix is the moment real freedom begins. There’s always a cost: either the short-term comfort that keeps you small, or the long-term peace that expands every part of your life. In this episode, I’m breaking down the three brutal — but liberating — truths that changed everything for me and every woman I’ve coached If you’ve ever thought: “I just wish this were easier.” “My partner still drinks — how can I do this alone?” “I’ve tried everything, what if I fail again?” Then this episode is for you. I’ll show you why the “other side” of drinking isn’t unknown — it’s the most familiar place you’ve simply forgotten how to access. Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol. The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you ca
podcast· 15:55Blindspot #1: Why Avoiding Alcohol Keeps You Stuck (5-Part Series)🌹
This is Part 1 of a 5 part series: The 5 Blindspots Secretly Sabotaging Your Sobriety. I share the three key reasons why distraction and replacement don’t lead to lasting change. Discover how to confront your beliefs, meet your real needs, and break free from the exhaustion of avoidance. Join me for a feminine-based approach to sustainable sobriety and start living your wildest, alcohol-free life! • why avoidance keeps you attached to alcohol • the belief ladder and confirmation bias • planning mindset and body state for events • case study of a date night that disproves a story • the relaxation myth vs real nervous system shifts • exhaustion from controlling environments • replacing rumination with evaluation and skills • focusing on thoughts, emotions, and actions you control 🌹Schedule A Free Private Strategy Session With Mary Today and Take Your Power Back Join The 90 Day Life Renewal! A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change,
podcast· 13:47Stop Asking 'Am I An Alcoholic?' - Ask THIS Instead
If you're a woman over wondering "Am I an alcoholic?" - you're not alone. This is the question that keeps so many of us stuck in shame, confusion, and endless Google searches at 2am. In this video, I'm sharing the truth about labels, the spectrum of alcohol use, and why the question itself might be keeping you from the freedom you're seeking. 🌹 IN TODAY'S VIDEO: • Why the label "alcoholic" doesn't serve women • The real question you should be asking instead • How to know if alcohol is enhancing or diminishing your life • The grey area drinking spectrum (and where you might be) • Your next steps toward clarity without shame or rock bottom This isn't about diagnosis or labels. It's about giving yourself permission to explore your relationship with alcohol - wherever you are on the journey. You don't need to hit rock bottom to decide alcohol isn't working for you anymore. You can choose sobriety as personal evolution, not punishment. Join The 90 Day Life Renewal! A Private Holistic Coach
podcast· 21:44Why Anxious Attachment Makes You Drink More (And How to Break the Cycle)
Hey beautiful Warriors of Love, it’s Mary — and this week’s episode goes deep into something so many of us experience but rarely name out loud. Have you ever noticed that even when you’re usually grounded, there are certain relationships or moments that throw you off balance — where you start overthinking, over-explaining, or trying to control what you can’t? That’s what we’re talking about today. I’m opening up about a recent personal experience that cracked my heart open in new ways — and how even through uncertainty, alcohol never once crossed my mind. I share how my sobriety and the Five Shifts I teach gave me the tools to meet that moment with softness, not shame. You’ll hear how anxious attachment and drinking can feed off each other… and why the real path to peace isn’t about “fixing” anyone else, but coming back to your values, your boundaries, and your truth. This episode is about resilience, emotional maturity, and learning to be with yourself — even when everything feels unc
podcast· 31:26Your Future Is Riding On It , New Chapter, Life Update
To all my Warriors of Love — this is for you. After a break for integration and creation, I’m back with a brand-new title, a new direction, and a new way for us to connect. Wild Sobriety is expanding to YouTube — not as a performance, but as a deeper conversation. In this episode, I share why I made the shift, what “wild sobriety” truly means, and how I’m integrating everything I’ve learned through my own healing, partnership, and growth. This is a love letter to everyone who’s been on the journey with me — those who’ve listened, drifted, returned, and kept the flame of curiosity alive. In this episode: Why I’m taking Wild Sobriety to YouTube for real-time connection and community What “wild sobriety” means beyond not drinking — clear seeing, emotional maturity, and radical responsibility How silence became my greatest teacher during a season of uncertainty and healing The truth about transformation, patience, and trusting divine timing A personal update about love, addiction, and choo
podcast· 59:27How to Support a Loved One Through Addiction (Without Losing Yourself) with Amber Hollingsworth
What happens when your sobriety collides with a loved one’s addiction? In this episode, I talk with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth about how to support someone struggling without enabling, the truth about boundaries, and how to protect your own wellbeing in the process. What happens when I’m navigating my own sobriety while someone I love is still caught in addiction’s grip? In this episode, I sit down with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth , founder of Put the Shovel Down , to talk about what it really looks like to support a loved one through addiction without losing yourself in the process. Amber shares why the belief that “you can’t help until they want it” keeps families stuck, the powerful difference between boundaries and rules, and how anger and control can actually fuel addiction. With 20+ years of experience, she brings a compassionate, strength-based approach that focuses on what is working instead of only on the problems. I also open up about my own experie