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podcast· 12:37199. The Boredom Pour
You’ve taken wine off the table, but now what? In this episode, we dig into what really happens when alcohol used to be your go-to reward and nothing else seems to scratch the itch. You’ll learn why the “I deserve it” mindset feels so powerful, how your brain responds to alcohol in ways that build habit fast, and why you might feel flat or deprived without it, even if you don’t want to drink. If you’ve stopped drinking but still feel like something’s missing, this conversation will help you understand why. And more importantly, what to do next. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult And don’t forget to sign up to The Freedom Lab. A new and more inspired way to spend Sober October - whether you want to abstain completely or just learn to drink less. Sign up here: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/tfl-eb
- podcast· 15:48
198. Drinking to Escape
When life feels overwhelming, do you find yourself reaching for a drink just to switch off? In this episode I explore the difference between craving the alcohol itself and craving the escape it promises. From late nights when your mind will not stop racing, to heavy responsibilities at work or home, to moments of grief or stress that feel too big to bear, drinking to escape can feel like the only option. But it quietly chips away at your resilience and keeps you stuck. You will learn why willpower alone is not enough, how to normalise emotions without numbing them, and practical ways to create real comfort in your body when everything feels too much. If you have ever told yourself, “I will cut back once life calms down,” this episode will show you how to stop waiting and start building resilience right now, no matter what is happening in your life. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult 👉 Want
- podcast· 21:22
197. Craving the Drink or the Comfort?
When you crave a drink, are you really craving the wine, or the comfort you believe it will bring? In this episode I explore the difference, because so often it is not the alcohol you actually want. It is the relief from stress, sleeplessness, pain, or just the endless chatter in your head. Once you can see that distinction, everything begins to change. I will share real-life examples, practical tools, and a playful reframe that helps you meet your body’s need for comfort without pouring a glass. You will learn how to pause, how to experiment with new ways of caring for yourself, and how to start breaking the cycle of chasing relief that never lasts. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 23:11
196. Is the Drink the Fun Part?
We tell ourselves the glass in our hand is what makes a night fun. That the drink is the sparkle, the release, the reason an evening feels special. But if that were true, then people who don’t drink would never have fun — and no event could ever be enjoyable without alcohol. In this episode, I unpack why our brains confuse permission with pleasure , how alcohol piggybacks on moments we’ve already decided are “fun time,” and why those nights often come with consequences that don’t feel so fun the next day. You’ll hear real-world examples of how fun actually gets created, plus simple tools you can use to reclaim joy without needing a glass in your hand. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s really the drink that makes the night, this conversation will give you the proof it isn’t — and show you how to create the kind of fun that doesn’t leave you with regret. Ready to build real freedom around alcohol? Book a free discovery call with me today here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult B
- podcast· 22:10
195. The Pressure of Holding It All Together
“ Holding it all together” isn’t just about your to-do list. There’s the action of doing it, the belief you should be able to do it all, and the crushing pressure of being the one everyone relies on. In this episode, I unpack those three layers and show why wine feels like the shortcut release, but never actually lightens the load. You’ll hear real-life examples from work, home, and relationships, plus practical ways to ease the weight without needing a glass in your hand. If you’ve ever felt like drinking is the only way to exhale, this conversation will help you find new options for relief and remind you that your worth has never depended on holding it all together. Ready to create real freedom around alcohol? Book a free discovery call with me today: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 20:00
194. Why Do I Do This to Myself?
Last week we explored the regret that comes from not starting sooner. This week I am diving into the other kind of regret, the one that shows up the morning after when you wake up frustrated and think, “Why do I do this to myself?” On the surface, it sounds like a reasonable question. But the truth is, it is not curiosity at all, it is criticism dressed up as reflection. And that keeps you stuck. In this episode, I will show you why that question is really a roadblock, the three common responses people fall into after a night that did not go as planned, and the one that actually leads to lasting change. If you have ever found yourself replaying the night and beating yourself up, this is the conversation that will help you step out of shame and into supportive curiosity instead. Listen now and then book your free discovery call with me to put this into practice in your own life: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 24:14
193. Regret For Not Starting Sooner
Ever decided to change your drinking and then been hit with the thought, “Why didn’t I do this years ago?” You are not alone. That “regret for not starting sooner” can keep you stuck before you have even built momentum. In this episode, I share why regret is one of the most pointless feelings out there and give you a simple 3-step process to drop it fast. We will talk real-life situations like trying to make your holiday more alcohol-free but finding yourself drinking on autopilot, and how to shift from beating yourself up to actually using the lesson. If you have been listening to this podcast for months and waiting for the right time, this is it. Book your free call today and if you decide to start coaching with me in August, you will receive a free copy of my book The Off Switch as my summer gift so you can start making changes before our first session. Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 24:14
192. When Wine Was the Reward - What Now?
You’ve taken wine off the table, but now what? In this episode, we dig into what really happens when alcohol used to be your go-to reward and nothing else seems to scratch the itch. You’ll learn why the “I deserve it” mindset feels so powerful, how your brain responds to alcohol in ways that build habit fast, and why you might feel flat or deprived without it, even if you don’t want to drink. If you’ve stopped drinking but still feel like something’s missing, this conversation will help you understand why. And more importantly, what to do next. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine. Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 23:43
191. I'm Not Drinking - Why Am I Still Thinking About It?
You’ve stopped drinking, but the thoughts are still there. Why? In this episode, we explore what it really means to find mental freedom, not just behavioural change. You’ll learn why thinking about alcohol all the time isn’t a sign something’s wrong with you, but a sign your brain is still working from an old script. If you’re feeling stuck, afraid you’ll slip, or like you’re wearing someone else’s life that doesn’t quite fit, this conversation will help you understand what’s really going on. Ready to stop managing alcohol and start moving on from it? Book a free discovery call and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 12:29
190. The Dopamine Default
Why do we still reach for a glass of wine, even when life feels good? In this episode, we unpack the science and psychology behind the dopamine default - the pattern where wine becomes your easy button, not because you're stressed, but because your brain has learned to expect it. You'll hear why craving isn't a flaw, why dopamine isn't the problem, and what’s really going on when simple pleasures stop feeling satisfying. If wine still feels magnetic even on the best days, this episode will change the way you see desire and help you understand what your brain is really asking for. Ready to build a different kind of default? Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what that could look like for you: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 12:42
189. The Rebel Response
Ever find yourself saying “I’m just a rebel” after doing something you didn’t actually want to do? This episode explores what’s really behind that pattern, why certain rules backfire, and what might be hiding underneath the urge to break them. If you’re caught between being good and letting go, this is your sign to listen in. Ready to stop rebelling against yourself? Book a free discovery call and let’s talk about what freedom could really look like for you: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 14:51
188. When Wine Becomes the Entertainment
What if the highlight of your day wasn’t a glass of wine? In this episode, we’re unpacking what happens when wine becomes the entertainment, when it’s not just part of the fun, but the main event. From laundry to emails to nights out, I’m sharing why so many high-achieving women quietly rely on alcohol to add excitement, and how you can gently shift that pattern without feeling deprived or dull. Plus, a personal story about going to the theatre without wine and loving every second of it. Book a free discovery call and let’s talk about what entertainment could really look like for you without the automatic glass (or two) of wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 14:56
187. I Should Be Further Along By Now
Feeling like you should be further along by now ? You’re not alone—and you’re not behind. In this episode, we’re unpacking the sneaky pressure of timelines and progress guilt, especially when it comes to drinking less. Whether you’re moderating, cutting back, or navigating tricky social moments, this is your reminder that it’s not about being perfect—it’s about building a process you can trust. I’ll walk you through real-life examples, reframes that actually help, and a powerful shift that will change how you think about “slip-ups” forever. Book a free call and I’ll help you build a version of drinking that works for you. Access my calendar here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 13:53
186. Seeking Permission
Why is it that drinking in the morning feels unthinkable… but by late afternoon, the same glass feels totally justified? In this episode of 90 Days Later, we’re unpacking the quiet power of permission—how your brain starts negotiating against your own goals as the day wears on, and why seemingly kind encouragement from others (like a partner saying “It’s okay if you have one”) can actually make you feel more conflicted, not supported. If you’ve ever made a plan to go wine-free only to rewrite it by 5pm, this conversation is for you. We’ll explore how seeking—and giving—yourself permission plays out in subtle, surprising ways, and how to flip the script so your choices actually reflect what you really want. If you’re tired of outsourcing your peace to the mood, the moment, or someone else’s opinion, let’s talk. Book a free call and I’ll help you build a version of drinking that works for you. Access my calendar here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult Sign up for the 10 Summer Drin
- podcast· 16:35
185. Is Moderation Possible?
Is moderation even possible—or are you just setting yourself up for disappointment? In this week’s episode of 90 Days Later, I’m breaking down the truth about moderation, why it works for some and not others, and how to know if it’s the right path for you. Spoiler: it’s not about being “good enough” to control your drinking—it’s about understanding why you want to, and building self-trust from the inside out. We’ll talk about what moderation really takes, the mindset shifts that make it easier, and why some clients eventually choose to leave alcohol behind altogether—on their own terms. Whether you’re cutting back, taking a break, or somewhere in the messy middle, this episode will remind you that your journey doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. You don’t need a crisis to make a change. You just need a willingness to listen to that quiet voice that says, “This isn’t working anymore.” 👉 If that voice is getting louder—and you’re ready for real support—book a free call and let’s ta
- podcast· 16:34
184. Reaching the F* It Point
We’ve all had that moment where everything feels too hard, too disappointing, too far off track — and we hear ourselves say “F-it.” But that moment isn’t failure. It’s a sign. A signal that something needs attention, not abandonment. In this episode, I’m breaking down why the F-it point is almost never about the wine — and what it’s really telling you about pressure, perfectionism, and the stories we make up when things don’t go to plan. You’ll hear why it’s worth getting curious instead of giving up, how habits and self-trust can carry you through the wobble, and why you don’t need to reverse your whole journey just because one day felt hard. If your last F*-it moment left you wondering what went wrong — or how to move forward — book a free discovery call with me. Together, we’ll figure out what you really need and create a plan that supports the version of you you’re becoming. You don’t have to do this alone. Get access to my calendar here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult Sig
- podcast· 14:50
183. You Don't Need to Say Forever
If the word “forever” sends your brain into panic mode, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to say it. Whether you want to cut back, take a break, or remove alcohol entirely, this episode unpacks why so many people get stuck in the all-or-nothing thinking that dominates the alcohol space. You’ll hear why not knowing exactly what you want is a powerful place to begin, how habits quietly build trust, and how change isn’t about labels — it’s about becoming someone new, one choice at a time. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to keep drinking, but I’m scared of what not drinking means,” this episode will bring relief and clarity. 💬 And if you’re ready to stop the cycle and start building a version of this that actually fits you, book a free call with me today — I’ll help you get clear on what you really want and create a plan that gets you there. Get on my calendar here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 15:05
182. I Should Be Able to Figure This Out On My Own
You’ve built a life most people would admire — but behind the scenes, there’s one habit that just won’t budge. You tell yourself you should be able to figure it out. You’re smart. Capable. You’ve solved bigger problems than this. So why does drinking less feel like the one thing that won’t click? In this episode, I’m sharing why your usual strategies — willpower, planning, logic — don’t work here (and were never meant to). You’ll learn why this isn’t a self-discipline problem, why your success might be fuelling the habit, and why getting help isn’t weakness — it’s wisdom. If you’ve ever thought “I should be able to fix this,” this conversation is your permission slip to stop doing it alone. 💬 And if you're ready to learn a new way with real support, book a free call with me today. Here’s the link to get time on my calendar: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 16:47
181. When They Expect You to Drink
When you say no to a drink and someone says, “Just one—come on, for me?”... it hits different. Especially when they know you’re cutting back. In this episode, we’re diving into those exact moments — the subtle pressure, the emotional tug-of-war, and why it can feel harder to say no to a friend than it ever did to wine. If you’ve ever felt like the only one not drinking, or like you’re stuck in a social Groundhog Day where everyone expects you to bend your own rules, this conversation is for you. You’ll walk away feeling seen, supported, and reminded that you don’t have to keep explaining yourself. And if you’re ready to step out of the loop and into real freedom — book a free call with me today at: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult Let’s make this easier, together.
- podcast· 11:57
180. My Life is Great - Why Do I Drink?
You’ve got the job, the family, the home—on paper, your life is great. So why are you still reaching for that glass of wine at the end of the day? In this episode, I unpack one of the most common questions I hear from high-achieving women: “Why am I drinking when everything else is working?” If that sounds like you, know this—you're not broken, and you’re definitely not alone. We’ll look at what’s really going on beneath that craving, and how it’s often less about wine and more about what’s being ignored. This isn’t about blame or shame. It’s about getting curious, softening the pressure, and starting to meet your own needs—without guilt, without over-explaining, and without wine. If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I deserve this,” this episode is for you. Want to get started today? Go to 90dayslater.co/kickstart and download my free Kickstart Guide to Drink Less. Ready to get this DONE and change your relationship with alcohol? Grab yourself a free call with me and let’s get to
- podcast· 16:40
179. Tackling: "One More Won't Hurt"
We’ve all said it… “One more won’t hurt.” But what starts as an innocent little thought can quietly unravel your best intentions—whether you're at home, out with friends, or just trying to enjoy a quiet night without overdoing it. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why that sneaky voice shows up (hint: your brain thinks it’s helping you!) and sharing a simple but powerful way to shut it down—without guilt, drama, or feeling like you’re missing out. You’ll learn how to spot the pattern before it takes over and what to say—both to yourself and to others—so you stay in charge of your choices, even when the wine is flowing. Grab your free copy of 3 Fast Fixes for That 'I Deserve It' Glass of Wine which contains practical tools and client-tested strategies to keep you strong in those tricky moments. Get yours here: https://90dayslater.co/fast3/ And if you're ready to get personalised support and make lasting changes to your drinking habits, I’d love to chat. Book your free call with
- podcast· 17:03
178. I Don't Want to Miss Out
What if "I don't want to" isn't a stop sign — but an invitation? In this episode, we dive into why your brain loves telling you you’ll miss out if you drink less — and why the real magic happens when you’re willing to test that story. I’ll show you how to flip the fear of missing out into choosing in, give you real-life examples, and set you a little experiment to try this week. And if you know you're ready for support, now is the time to take the next step. Book your free call today — spots are limited, and your future self will thank you for starting now. Here’s the link to get on my calendar: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
- podcast· 20:12
177. When Your Partner Drinks, And You Don't
In this episode, we explore the challenges and opportunities of not drinking alcohol when your partner or friends still drink. Whether you're cutting back on alcohol, practicing mindful drinking, or embracing sobriety, we share real-life scenarios and expert tips to help you navigate social events with confidence. You’ll learn how to: Handle awkward moments when everyone around you is drinking Respond with confidence when asked why you're not drinking alcohol Manage relationship tension when your partner drinks and you don’t Build deeper connections with friends or a partner—without relying on alcohol If you're ready to drink less or live alcohol-free, this episode offers practical strategies and empowering support to help you stay aligned with your goals—no matter what the social setting. 💬 Ready to make moderation easier, transform your relationship with alcohol and feel good about your choices no matter what others are doing? Book your free call with me and let’s create your exact
- podcast· 17:57
176. Unwind Without Wine
If your go-to wind-down ritual involves pouring a glass of wine at the end of a long day, you're not alone—and you’re definitely not broken. In this heartfelt episode, we’re diving into the quiet, often unspoken truth behind that evening pour: the need to pause, breathe, and reclaim a sense of calm. But what happens when that glass of wine stops feeling like a treat and starts feeling like a crutch? Whether you’re just beginning to question your relationship with alcohol or you’ve been quietly wrestling with it for a while, this conversation is your gentle invitation to explore a new kind of peace—one that doesn’t come from a bottle. We’ll unpack why so many high-achieving, capable women find themselves in this cycle, and why learning to unwind without wine isn’t about restriction—it’s about freedom, clarity, and feeling proud of how you care for yourself. Plus, you’ll hear about The Ultimate Wine-Free Wind-Down Kit™—a powerful resource packed with calming, science-backed tools to help